Happiness in dating

Integrating two lives in any environment is at best a challenge. Integrating two lives that are in separate turmoil, on separate paths, and with separate ideas about life does not a magically make a happy existence. Relationships are constant work.

However, dating is the lightest level of being in a relationship and should be taken as such. You are not yet making mortgage payments with your date partner or raising children together so have fun and enjoy the whole experience.

Dating is the part of life that allows you free access to discovering the types of personalities that appeal to you in the opposite sex. Every date you engage in will not be a spectacular experience but if you learn something new or verify something you’ve touched on in the past from each date then it can’t be considered a total loss. You have to consider that dating opens your mind to new and exciting activities and it also prepares you for serious relationships.

Gone are the days whereby you are considered, as a woman, loose or promiscuous if you date a few men at once or many men overall in your dating career. And gone are the days where men feel pressured to take the first step toward initiating contact, plan the date, and pay for everything. The world of dating has encountered a silent solid revolution and as the perfect revolution goes no one was killed but improvements were established.

If you are a young participant in the dating world you may not even realize “we’ve come a long way baby” but as the new years will assuredly bring forth new and improved dating tips, secrets, and general etiquette the younger generations will see their own revolution occur.

As for the more mature participants (and this can include individuals well into their seventies) in the dating scene you have seen many changes. Maybe some of the changes have brought slight turmoil to the table of dating. But so many more of the changes must make you feel good to be alive, adventurous and vibrant. That is why communication with your date is imperative. Odds are you are dating a person close to your age. It is likely they recognize and feel as awkward with the changes as you.

Communication is important in all relationships. Dating is no exception. Honesty and integrity are important also. You don’t have to lay your whole life on the line to date, you simply have to set aside some quality time to indulge in meeting new people, experiencing new and old pastimes, and be a person that gravitates toward the happiness we as humans so often neglect.

The russian bride and her uniqueness

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Your first letter

So, you are creating your dating profile. It's very important to mention your REAL height, weight, marital status, your age, education and occupation; consider adding some photos to your profile. In your very first letter to the Russian bride you can write everything you think worth mentioning in the first letter to a stranger – this can be your life position, some aims and hopes, your interests, a description of person that your are looking for. Remember one thing – it not usual in Russia to call a woman 'dear', 'love', 'sweet' in the first letter. She may think you are insincere or too emotional. You should avoid official style, just be yourself.

What things to discuss

Never be afraid of expressing your feelings and thoughts: the Russian woman is naturally very sensitive and emotional. Ask questions and answer hers in return. Your questions might be like following: What kind of a man would you like to see near you? What is more important for you: family or business career? Ask how she spent last week and tell her what you did all this time. Write about everything you find interesting. Ask her advice on this or that matter or difficult situation in your life, share your plans for the future with her.

It would logical to wonder about how long the acquaintance by correspondence should last. In this matter you should retain the sense of proportion. On the one hand, long correspondence makes an opportunity to know each other better. On the other hand, Russian women don't like inert men and will find long correspondence a great nuisance. Therefore you have to pick the crucial moment of transition to personal meeting intuitively. Then you should decide where your first date will take place - in her country, in your country or in any other country. On the one hand, it's more comfortable for you to have a meeting in your country – you'll feel yourself a master of the situation but for your beloved one it can be difficult to be in the unknown place and and that can embarrass her. Meeting in her country may seem like a better idea – she is at home and this fact will help her to be herself while your meetings. But the more fair variant is to meet in any other country – there both of you are in the same conditions.

Russian bride and her Love

Due to the reality of the Russian life (the wars and totalitarian regime) the awareness of the of the submissive role of women and to the fact the number of women in the country has always been considerably larger than that of men; this definitely can be the reason for this self-sacrifice and artificially lowered requirements. Since then the demographic situation didn't changed.

In their love Russian women often trust their hearts, not logical thinking. One may be a tall, handsome and wealthy fellow and still fail to attract a Russian woman's attention; the other one may be crazy about her and still fail to arouse a response in her. It does not mean she needs a man with physical or spiritual shortcomings. The thing is that she must fall in love with You and Only You and then you may count on all-conquering forgiveness and on absolute devotion.

Usually Russian woman does not expect to profit by her love, she is genuinely selfless, and she often sacrifices her career and her interests because of her family interests and needs. Devotion determines to a great extent the behavior of a Russian bride in love. For most Russian women the words of the church wedding rite 'I vow to stay with my husband in grief and joy until death separates us', are still the matter of current significance.

Russian lady and her husband

A married Russian woman has her life values arranged like this: children - husband - relatives - her home - her job. As you can see, husband plays one of the predominant roles in her life. Always he is a regular sexual partner. A Russian women nowadays, especially those over 25-30 years old, has certain problems with finding a man to establish permanent sexual relations with. So, the husband is everything to her. This is also proved by the fact that after the wedding the number of female friends of a young wife is considerably reduced: she doesn't need them any more because her husband also becomes her best friend.

The husband has traditionally been the highest authority for the Russian woman. She will not go out, nor make major purchases, does not take any important decisions without first consulting with him.

For Russian women, children have always been the highest value. If you already have your own children Russian lady will surely love them too, as if they were her own ones, because the beloved man and his offsprings are inseparable for her.

Getting one s phone number ain t that hard

Most men have difficulties in asking someone’s phone number for a date but how can you really get your date’s phone number without scaring them away?

Different men have different approaches. Shyness makes it difficult for some to muster up the courage to get the phone number of the person they are interested in. Sometimes, men have the tendency to be too aggressive that it drives women away. The best way to get her phone number is by asking her casually in a way that she can still feel that your interested. Saying the right words at the right time may convince the person to give you her number. For example, when you have just met this person and you are about to say your goodbyes you can say casually: "I enjoyed talking to you and I'd love to be able to phone you sometime."

Some women might be uncomfortable with this scenario that they ask for your number instead. Don’t take this against you. It doesn’t mean that she is not interested in you. Maybe she has to work and thinks it’s better for her to call you so that at least you won’t be greeted by an answering machine every time you call. Wait for that call for about three days and if the call does not happen then don’t expect for her to call you.

Getting someone’s phone number is quite hard, so try to keep your conversation interesting so he/she would be interested. Men would want to get there phone number right away. They usually end up empty handed. Sometimes it’s good not to ask her directly for her number. You can try saying that you had a great time and that you’d love to see her again. You can wait a little until she gives you the number, but if she doesn’t and if you feel that she had a great time also, you can go right ahead and ask her the number.

Women love confidence. And men have to understand that confidence isn't just about getting her number. It's how you handle the situation if she doesn't give you her number. Politely ask why she didn't in that way she would feel guilty and might just give you her magical phone number.

Sometimes women would say, "Why don't you just give me your number?" This is usually there way of saying that they’re not interested. You can change that by trying to talk to her and making sure that she feels that your intentions are pure. Do not be desperate in getting her number. Women hate that. Desperate men sometimes, they lead to stalking. Try to be as casual as possible in getting her phone number. If she doesn’t give you the number, move on.

Another way to get her phone number is to first move up to her and start having a conversation. After 3-4 minutes, say that you have to go back to your friends and turn to leave. Then turn to her again and say, “Hey! Do you have an email?” And if she says yes give her a pen and paper and when she’s writing it down say, “Can you write your phone number too?”

Getting someone’s phone number is quite hard. You just need to gather up your confidence and ask her casually. Don’t make a big deal out of it if she turns you down. Remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Real romance a guide to transforming an online romance into an offline reality

Okay, so you’ve finally managed to ask that amazing person out (through e-mail of course) that you’ve met thru online dating but are you ready for a possibly real relationship in the real world?

Well, for starters, don’t even think that just because online dating services have somewhat made the whole dating scene a “little less complicated”, it doesn’t automatically mean that they’ve been able to make things any easier. Sure, online dating services have been able to make the whole “meet and greet” process “quick and simple” but that’s where online dating ends and real life dating begins.

There are many online dating sites on the internet that are not just offering their free online dating services and some “valuable” tips on how to get things going in the “real world” may actually help you a bit but in order for you to survive the real world dating scene, you must have realistic expectations.

While you must be open minded about the whole adult online dating scene, you must not be naпve to believe in everything that you read/see on other people’s profiles. Again, while not everyone are coming up with false claims about themselves, its better be safe than sorry.

Sometimes it’s actually wiser to just meet up with the person that you’ve met thru online dating after interacting online for just awhile. While this will give you some time to actually get to know your new “friend”, this short span of time will at least give you a hint if this person that you’ve met through online dating is really someone whom you’d like to date outside the online dating arena. Try to interact on a more “personal basis” aside from exchanging e-mails or online instant messages, why not try to communicate the “old fashioned way” by calling each other up? Sometimes you can also get a better feel of a person’s personality by the way they carry themselves while they speak. There are some people who tend to have a weird laugh, even a creepy one, so can are you still willing to date someone like that? It’s best to a least get over some of the minor glitches that comes with online dating before you end up wasting your time with the wrong person.

As for finally going out on your date with someone you’ve met from these free online dating service sites, it’s best to keep things casual at first. Don’t try to rush intimacy because it might just blow back to your face. Try to get to know more of the person you’ve met through online dating just a little deeper before you decide on “taking the plunge” because you never can be too careful with strangers. Some might actually turn out to be psychos, married people or sexual predators even. It’s always best to not let your guard down even if the person you’ve met through online dating “seems nice”.

Once you’re already sitting across your date from the online world. You must remember some simple rules when trying to engage in some “witty conversation”:

Never ask overtly sexual questions nor make sexual innuendoes: men usually commit this mistake when they meet someone that they’re really physically attracted to. While there are those who to quick test the waters and are seeking to easily get lucky. Women sometimes makes the same mistake and basically for the same reasons as men but the point is, even though these people have put themselves out in the online dating scene, they are not offering free sex to just about anyone that they meet.

Never interrogate your date: while it’s good that you’re very much interested in your date and would want to get to know him or her on a deeper level, it is never safe to assume that you can ask your date just about anything that pops in your head. This can just make your date feel every uncomfortable and uneasy – how would you feel if you been made to feel like you’re under a microscope being scrutinized?

Be open minded: always remember that you’re two different people. No matter how much you have in common, you still have your own thoughts and ideas and while you or your date may not always agree on some things it’s best not to bee too biased or judgmental over other people’s opinions.

Should i get someone s phone number for a possible date

Maybe yes, maybe no. That depends on if you’re interested in going on a date with that person. You may not be sure at the time you meet the person whether or not you want to go on a date. If this is the case, you may want to consider taking their phone number for future reference. However, if you don’t think you would be interested, then don’t take their number! Some of these tips may help you decide whether or not you should take someone’s phone number:

1) You want to call the person so you can talk with them and consider going on a date.

2) If you’re not sure about whether or not you want to call the person, take their phone number if you’re not totally sure! This may be your only opportunity.

3) Consider giving the person your telephone number. You may have the option of providing your home, cell phone or work number to the person you may consider dating. This may make the other person more comfortable and less pressured that they are not being asked to give out their phone number to you. By giving them your telephone number, the person has an option of whether or not they want to contact you.

4) After deciding to get a person’s telephone number, remember men and women are different when it comes to calling each other. Men may want a longer period of time to call a woman than the woman may expect it to take. Women may expect that when a man receives their telephone number they should call them soon after meeting them. It’s okay for the woman to call the man after initially meeting him instead of waiting for him to do so!

5) Make sure if you’re not interested in the person, don’t give out your telephone number, you may regret it later! Just say no, in a polite way if you’re not interested in the person. That’s okay! That gives that person and you the opportunity to move on to someone else they may be interested in.

Getting a person’s telephone number may or may not be easy. It just depends on whether or not you or that person may be interested in each other. It is important to remember that collecting a telephone number of no substance is totally different that obtaining a telephone number from someone special that you may be able to have a future connection with. So make sure when you get their phone number, you really want it, and the person giving it to you wants you to have it!